I spent the rest of that night and ALL of Saturday on the couch with nausea and stomach cramps. I think it will be a long time before I want pizza again - so sad. It was such a wasted weekend! I hate that! I did push myself that evening to at least get Naomi bathed and myself showered so we could hopefully try to make it to 8am church on Sunday. I felt fine Sunday morning (and thank goodness I had showered the night before) so we made it to church!
Naomi said the opening prayer in primary. She spent the entire rest of the day praying randomly. Even more funny is our lesson the week before in Family Home Evening had been about prayer. We taught her the steps and why we do it. That did not provoke an entire day of praying however.
Being in a new home once again - we are forced, I mean, attempting to find some new couple friends to hang out with. We are hoping for at least one couple who has a kid or two. We tend to find couples without kids to hang out with. It would be nice to have someone around for Naomi to play with. All of our friends have kids after we aren't living close anymore. I always get into these slumps when we are trying to make friends. I assume that none of them actually want to be friends with us. I find all of our flaws as a couple and why they don't want us around, besides the easy answer that everyone is already full up of friends. The little boy the on old TV show Freaks and Geeks pointed it out perfectly, "I don't need anymore friends, I already have 2. Who needs more than 2 friends?". I feel that everyone around us feels that they already have 2 friends, why get more!
I even find myself stopping conversations short (without fully realizing it) when someone mentions that their husband will be done school this summer or they are moving next month. Honestly, what is the point in carrying the conversation any further? The friendship is not possible! Its a lost cause! I read an article in my Real Simple that captured my feelings about this perfectly - I would post it here if I could. The author stated that its like dating all over again, only this time we have to find two people who fit both of our personalities. Brian and I are constantly giving each other "dating" tips - what to say, how to act. Its ridiculous! But such a necessary evil.
Brian is great and has made cream puffs every weekend thus far to take over to people's houses to win friends. Nothing has come of it yet. Brian is also a little naive and always thinks we have found the perfect couple. He doesn't see little signs like when people want to leave or when he talks for an hour about the evils of Utah and both in the couple are from here! He is also always forgetting that we want a couple with kids - its on the order form! With people who have kids though, the order gets harder to fill. We have to have similar parenting styles. The kids have to be able to play with each other.
*sigh* The requirements go on and on. Will we ever again have couple friends? We can only hope! The search continues...
7 comments:
LoL...Keith and I are always hoping to meet people who DON'T have kids!!! All our couple friends do, and we LOVE hanging out with them, just sometimes, we want to do things after 8 PM...I think you guys are the only ones who are up for stuff like that...anyway, good luck!
I don't know how it is but I can sympathize...being single with all married friends and all. I like the new look of the blog. I know i'm not married, and don't have kids but I want to hang out with you! When are you free? (PS i know you don't care that i'm not married i'm totally kidding!! Love you!)
Oh Carrie ... hang in there!! Making friends can be a daunting, stretching, scary step, I know. You know - reading your description it reminded me of how I felt at SVU at first: everyone there had their "group" and I just didn't seem to belong. My roomates hated me ... but it got better, especially when you guys were nice enough to let me hang with your crew. Even then, I think my own insecurities kept me from really feeling like I was "part" of the group, but whenever I let go of those feelings I had a wonderful time! Just think - there's got to be someone out there who is feeling just like you and you could once again be the one to fill that void for them! Everyone needs a friend like you around! Got get 'em girlie!
I like the new layout!:) I have also decided that you must move to Oklahoma and live near us. Our girls are so close in age and I think we would all just have a grand old time! So are you up for another move? ;) (We have also moved a lot in our 4 1/2 years of marriage... ummmm 4x I believe it is... so I sympathize.... we don't move far but change ward boundaries every time!) GOOD LUCK!
Holy crap! I am SO SICK FOR YOUR PIZZA EXPERIENCE! So sad! Shall I keep ordering over and over until I get sick?
I am really impressed that you are actively out there finding friends. Me - never. And I've never lived (married) anywhere else, and my sisters are in the ward. I cannot do it.
However, I will suggest: cultivate one really awesome single or married no kids friend who can BABYSIT!!! I should've done that.
Y'all are awesome. Y'all will make a great family some great friends. Personally, the cream puffs would've done it for me.
I may steal your layout.
I totally know what you mean. Reading your post was like an "Ah Ha!" moment. I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I just want to give up on the whole making friends thing and hibernate, but then I think that I could be missing my best friend around the corner! Or downstairs!! I am so glad I have you as a friend! I liked hibernating together sometimes. Good Luck with your challenge!! Or...just move to California and you don't even have to make cream puffs, i'll get Joe to make chocolate souffles!!
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